Hi!
In the assessment
we are to ask ourselves which aspect (worldly, interpersonal, biological,
psychospiritual) is the source of suffering or difficulty and find ways on how
to develop that area. I decided to focus on psychospiritual more specifically
the emotional portion of it. I feel I have a neutral state when it comes to
emotions and I can deal with them pretty well however, I have a difficult time
with being angry or upset with someone. I don’t express to the person my
feelings as I would rather avoid conflict and wind up keeping the issue bottled
up until I’m “over it”. I know the steps I need to take but it’s as always,
easier said than done.
Maria
Maria,
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way. I was told that I don't show emotion and I'm tough to read. I guess that's sort of a defense mechanism because I don't always want people to know what I'm feeling or thinking and I'm very good at holding it in. I think it's better than blowing up, out of emotion and maybe sticking my foot in my mouth. I also avoid conflict because I just don't want to fight. It is way easier said than done, I just hold it in and know that sometimes I shouldn't.
Colleen
Maria,
ReplyDeleteI am just the opposite, but my daughter is very much like you. How I do wish we could all meet in the middle with this. I see her struggle all the time with her emotions and not letting them out and because of this she deals with migraines and extreme muscle tension. I do get not wanting to rock the boat, but here are times when you really need to. I see her let situations go that are not right and feel she should stand up for herself more. What is really odd about the situation is that she will stand up for others. I have asked her to find a tai chi class hoping that by implementing this into her life it will help at least with the stress and hopefully reduce her headaches and muscle tension. Unfortunately where we live, this could be a difficult thing to find.
Julie C.
Maria,
ReplyDeleteI am certainly with you on being neutral on emotions. I tend to keep a pretty stiff upper lip in the face of the world in regard to my emotions and I can now see how this is a bit unhealthy :) I know for my clients, now and in the future, it is helpful for me to help them see how "being strong" can be harmful to out overall health and wellness. On the other hand I definitely do not have a hard time telling people if and when I am angry, upset or disappointing in them, I can be very black and white and a bit caustic. It is a balance I must continue to seek out.
Have a great week,
Christine Dixon
Dear Maria,
ReplyDeleteI wear my heart on my sleeve. Which means, I let people poke at it until I cant take anymore! Then of course, I am the nasty one. Emotions are a hard thing to balance. I find that I can be very extreme with my emotions and can't let people slide when they hurt me. I am very forgiving and sometimes that is harmful too. I have started working on that. Not letting people have that kind of control over me feels really good. It is hard as I am new at it, but when I intentionally decided that I needed to take care of me in that area, I felt better almost immediately. Blessings.
Angela
Maria,
ReplyDeleteCommunication is such an important part of our lives. We need it to talk with our families, co-workers, supervisors and also to teach our children how. I understand that confrontation is hard, but it's all in the approach. If you go into it as just a discussion, that's all it will be. But if you think it will start an argument, then your approach will send it in that direction. I have 10 people that I manage at my job, and I have to remember everyday that I don't want to lose these people but I need them to do something better or different. So I try to just make it casual, not stressful so they don't feel like I'm attacking them.
Good luck in your work on spirituality and remember it's all in the approach.
Christine Faust